Apt quote

[kengr]

From one of fayanora's tweets:

I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the line “it’s not okay to force someone into sexual activity” is that in many ways, forcing people to do things is part of our culture in general. Cut that shit out of your life. If someone doesn’t want to go to a party, try a new food, get up and dance, make small talk at the lunchtable—that’s their right. Stop the “aww c’mon” and “just this once” and the games where you playfully force someone to play along. Accept that no means no—all the time.

Comments

[janetmiles.livejournal.com]

I think there's a happy medium somewhere between inviting, encouraging, and pressuring.

[seawasp]

Yes. And sometimes it involves figuring out how to change No, No, No to yes.

As a parent, I have to do this a LOT. I also have to tell my wife when to accept "no" even when she wishes it was "yes" because I'm an introvert and so are some of my kids.