Help?

[kengr]

I've run into this before, but UI think it's time to ask for some advise on how "normal" people would handle this...

I have a moderately urgent need to get some stuff moved into storage. Lin and Kermit have helped as they can, but Wed, their van suffered a moderately serious problem with the side door. So we only got two loads moved.

They offered to help.

I've asked Gary if he could help and he said yes. And that's the last I've heard.

This is where I get confused. This sort of thing has happened to me before. I tell folks that I need help with something and then *nothing*.

*I* am expecting them to tell me when would be convenient, since I've got the more flexible schedule (within limits).

Obviously, I'm doing something wrong. Or not doing something right.

But damned if I know what.

Anybody want to try explaining it to me?

Comments

[netdancer.livejournal.com]

You'll need to be more aggressive. Call people and say "Ok, how's Thursday at 2pm for you, on helping me move this stuff?" They're probably waiting for you to tell them when they're supposed to be there helping. You can work out the wheres and whens on the phone.

Traditionally, if people help you move a large amount of stuff, you feed them. Maybe offer chili? Or soup? Or maybe pizza?