"I wasn't trans so neither are you"

[kengr]

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/please-stop-insisting-trans-kids-are-just-struggling-with-puberty/ar-AA19LVQB?rc=1&ocid=winp1taskbar&cvid=6640d993d82642a593fb5230d37ae364&ei=13&fbclid=IwAR1c-Sxe758YI-h7-wR1I0h6rUMWcVsDPTD3ROonc9mDgrEYGEcHYVyFn9A

This is a widely seen but rarely commented on phenomenon.

Basically, a lot of people just cannot grasp the idea that other people are *different* than they are. That some people's minds don't work the way theirs do.

And in many cases, they come to believe that these other people are *deliberately* being contrary. Not that they are "really* different, but that they are acting differently with malicious intent.

This isn't just about gender, a lot of political, social, and religious rifts are due to this lack of understanding that people can act differently, or believe differently without having to be inherently wrong.

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[conuly]

“If I’d been born 30 years later, I too might have tried to transition. The allure of escaping womanhood would have been huge,” she wrote, adding that internalized misogyny as a teenager could have persuaded her “to turn myself into the son my father had openly said he’d have preferred.”

I got news for JKR, and anybody else who uses this particular argument: This is not a normal thing that normal cisgender people say and feel. Hell, it's not even a normal thing that transphobes say, because while I've definitely seen that argument from them before, even really big voices like JKR have not been able to make it a common and mainstream argument that they use all the time. They say other ridiculous things, but that particular argument is a bit niche.

[acelightning73]

As a child, I got tired of being told that some activity I was interested in wasn't a choice for girls - it's unladylike, women aren't smart enough to be scientists, women aren't physicaly strong enough to fly a plane (and not brave enough), and why am I such a weirdo. It never occurred to me to want to turn into a boy to be allowed to do the things that interested me. I just though all the "women can't do that" was bullshit, because I could do those things.

[kengr]

Let's see:
Marie Curies (and many others)
Amelia Earhart (and the women who ferried planes across country and even across the Atlantic) In WWII

[acelightning73]

Amelia Earhart and Marie Curie were two of my earliest role models. But I couldn't afford an airplane and I was't brilliant enough to win a Nobel Prize.