kengr

Aspie here. He gets closer than I'd like him, move back or ask him to -- without contemplating offense, either intentional or not. Trying to dominate someone who refuses to play dominance games just doesn't work; if one is doing this as a "fight prelude" the answer is "either hit me or don't." But, possibly because of said strong presentation, it generally just doesn't *happen*.

In retrospect, there have been several times where other people were trying to pick fights with *me*, and I just didn't perceive it.

I don't look for fights with other people because I *know* I can injure them -- do I really want to go to all that bother? Almost never, and those times I *do* are the ones in which my internal defenses engage, because this is so rarely the "right time."

Am I beating the conversation to death? My apologies if so.