The perniciousness of "hinting"
Jul. 24th, 2006 05:46 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kengrI'm incredibly bad at reading hints. It took me the better part of an hour to figure out that a former girlfriend was hinting that she wanted to have sex. She hadn't *quite* gotten to the point of rubbing herself all over me...
I'm not very good at hinting either. After years of alternating between too subtle to be noticed and blatant enough to suffer much embarrassment at when people reacted to the lack of sublety, I try not to try hinting anymore.
Alas, I'm finding that other people are quite ready to read hints where none were intended which can lead to some real messes if they don't approve of what they thought you were hinting.
This constant looking for subtexts gets really old and I wish there was a way to train it out of society.
And yes, I fear I do it myself upon occasion. But more often my problem is being overly literal or fixed on "proper" (as opposed to common) usage of the language.
I'm not very good at hinting either. After years of alternating between too subtle to be noticed and blatant enough to suffer much embarrassment at when people reacted to the lack of sublety, I try not to try hinting anymore.
Alas, I'm finding that other people are quite ready to read hints where none were intended which can lead to some real messes if they don't approve of what they thought you were hinting.
This constant looking for subtexts gets really old and I wish there was a way to train it out of society.
And yes, I fear I do it myself upon occasion. But more often my problem is being overly literal or fixed on "proper" (as opposed to common) usage of the language.
