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stacymtf
So how did this all start and how did you end up here?
Not sure. As a kid around age 4 or so, I recall noticing the way mom sat, and practicing until I could cross my legs the same way. When I started school at age 6, this resulted in a lot of ridicule for "sitting like a girl.
I wasn't very good at sports, couldn't fight worth a damn, cried easily and preferred hanging out with the girls.
But the abuse caused me to try blending in better. Never was very good at it, but I did manage to at least avoid the "acting like a girl" taunts.
When puberty hit, and when I found out about the difference between boys and girls, I recall tucking everything back between my legs a time or two. I even tried taping things, but could never get it to work.
I had a lot of fantasies about changing back and forth between male and female,
Never got into cross-dressing, didn't really have the opportunity. Mom's stuff wouldn't have fit me, and never even considered buying anything.
Found a dress once that someone had tossed out. It was a bit too small in the top I couldn't fasten the back. I did try it on a few times anyway.
I do wonder what I might have done if it fitted.
After that, other than being interested in "forced feminization" stories, nothing much happened until the mid to late 80s. got involved with someone online and we tried a few scenes. When she visited, she brought a bra and a pair of panties that I managed to get into and we tried a bit of role-play along with other things.
A few years back, I got involved with someone else online and they pushed me to get more clothes and to get help from a few folks I knew in the local kink community to get an outfit.
After a while, I realized that I liked the time dressed as Brooke. And that I could pass "well enough" for some situations (I'd gotten involved with a local TV/TS group by then and had been out in public with others).
I've got a bit of a wardrobe now, and have some idea of what I need to learn and do. Still got a ways to go.
What is your plan to transition?
Don't really plan on transitioning. I *do* want to be able to just "be Brooke" when I feel like it though. So I am planning on permanent hair removal. And trying to extend the wardrobe as well as working on voice and mannerisms.
Are you aware that many transsexuals never live a "normal" female life and end up involved with other trans people and in the trans community for the duration of their lives?
It's not like I've *ever* lived that normal a life. Closest I've come to being "normal" is sort of fitting in among gamers and computer geeks. Neither is exactly "normal".
If you pass perfectly in 3 years, will you tell others about your past?
Depends on what they need to know. But since I don't plan on going full time, it'll depend on the situation.
Why do you want to transition?
I don't. While I'm curious about what it'd be like to have fully female genitals, I'm not curious enough to want to give up my (mostly) functional male ones.
*If* something happened to my testicles, I'd seriously consider going on female hormones rather than male ones.
And I'm not ruling out breast implants some day. But I've got a lot of other things that are more important to deal with. Like my weight. (I weigh about 1.5 times what I'd like to weigh and almost double what the stupid tables say I should)
What is your sexual orientation and how does your changing your gender effect that?
Bi. Currently more interested in a relationship with a guy than a girl. But not really expecting anything to happen.
My gender doesn't really have anything to do with it.
What will you do about employment? Do you plan to transition at work?
I'm currently living of money I inherited. When I eventually go back to work, I'll probably do it as a guy. It'd be *nice* if I could do so as a gal, but I doubt I'll be good enough any time soon.
And since I'm more "in-between" anyway, I'd probably (if the job environment allowed it) just wear stuff that was androgynous with some female touches I could get away with.
Fortunately, where I live, I'm covered by the anti-discrimination laws.
Are out to your friends and family? How are they reacting to your decision?
Don't really have any family. Only living relative I've seen three times in the last 30 years.
Friends know as much about this (and other "unusual") aspects of my life as they are comfortable with.
What is your goal? After you go full-time will you pursue other surgeries?
See above. Not likely to go full time. If I do, not sure if I'd go with implants.
My goal is to be able to get up in the morning and (assuming there's no pressing reason to go one way or the other) decide which gender I feel like being that day.
I'd *like* to be able to "mix n'match" as well, but frankly, that involves a lot more grief from "normal" people.
Looking like a woman, even an unattractive one, will get a few sorts of unwelcome attention. Being fat gets a nastier sort, regardless of gender. But being obviously "a guy in a dress/skirt" gets a sort I *really* don't want to deal with.
stacymtfSo how did this all start and how did you end up here?
Not sure. As a kid around age 4 or so, I recall noticing the way mom sat, and practicing until I could cross my legs the same way. When I started school at age 6, this resulted in a lot of ridicule for "sitting like a girl.
I wasn't very good at sports, couldn't fight worth a damn, cried easily and preferred hanging out with the girls.
But the abuse caused me to try blending in better. Never was very good at it, but I did manage to at least avoid the "acting like a girl" taunts.
When puberty hit, and when I found out about the difference between boys and girls, I recall tucking everything back between my legs a time or two. I even tried taping things, but could never get it to work.
I had a lot of fantasies about changing back and forth between male and female,
Never got into cross-dressing, didn't really have the opportunity. Mom's stuff wouldn't have fit me, and never even considered buying anything.
Found a dress once that someone had tossed out. It was a bit too small in the top I couldn't fasten the back. I did try it on a few times anyway.
I do wonder what I might have done if it fitted.
After that, other than being interested in "forced feminization" stories, nothing much happened until the mid to late 80s. got involved with someone online and we tried a few scenes. When she visited, she brought a bra and a pair of panties that I managed to get into and we tried a bit of role-play along with other things.
A few years back, I got involved with someone else online and they pushed me to get more clothes and to get help from a few folks I knew in the local kink community to get an outfit.
After a while, I realized that I liked the time dressed as Brooke. And that I could pass "well enough" for some situations (I'd gotten involved with a local TV/TS group by then and had been out in public with others).
I've got a bit of a wardrobe now, and have some idea of what I need to learn and do. Still got a ways to go.
What is your plan to transition?
Don't really plan on transitioning. I *do* want to be able to just "be Brooke" when I feel like it though. So I am planning on permanent hair removal. And trying to extend the wardrobe as well as working on voice and mannerisms.
Are you aware that many transsexuals never live a "normal" female life and end up involved with other trans people and in the trans community for the duration of their lives?
It's not like I've *ever* lived that normal a life. Closest I've come to being "normal" is sort of fitting in among gamers and computer geeks. Neither is exactly "normal".
If you pass perfectly in 3 years, will you tell others about your past?
Depends on what they need to know. But since I don't plan on going full time, it'll depend on the situation.
Why do you want to transition?
I don't. While I'm curious about what it'd be like to have fully female genitals, I'm not curious enough to want to give up my (mostly) functional male ones.
*If* something happened to my testicles, I'd seriously consider going on female hormones rather than male ones.
And I'm not ruling out breast implants some day. But I've got a lot of other things that are more important to deal with. Like my weight. (I weigh about 1.5 times what I'd like to weigh and almost double what the stupid tables say I should)
What is your sexual orientation and how does your changing your gender effect that?
Bi. Currently more interested in a relationship with a guy than a girl. But not really expecting anything to happen.
My gender doesn't really have anything to do with it.
What will you do about employment? Do you plan to transition at work?
I'm currently living of money I inherited. When I eventually go back to work, I'll probably do it as a guy. It'd be *nice* if I could do so as a gal, but I doubt I'll be good enough any time soon.
And since I'm more "in-between" anyway, I'd probably (if the job environment allowed it) just wear stuff that was androgynous with some female touches I could get away with.
Fortunately, where I live, I'm covered by the anti-discrimination laws.
Are out to your friends and family? How are they reacting to your decision?
Don't really have any family. Only living relative I've seen three times in the last 30 years.
Friends know as much about this (and other "unusual") aspects of my life as they are comfortable with.
What is your goal? After you go full-time will you pursue other surgeries?
See above. Not likely to go full time. If I do, not sure if I'd go with implants.
My goal is to be able to get up in the morning and (assuming there's no pressing reason to go one way or the other) decide which gender I feel like being that day.
I'd *like* to be able to "mix n'match" as well, but frankly, that involves a lot more grief from "normal" people.
Looking like a woman, even an unattractive one, will get a few sorts of unwelcome attention. Being fat gets a nastier sort, regardless of gender. But being obviously "a guy in a dress/skirt" gets a sort I *really* don't want to deal with.
