This is the problem

I came across this post today
Getting Straight To The Point

TL;DR: guy worried about gays hitting on him, instructors asks hopw many girls have hit on him

This demonstrates an all too common problem. Men are afraid of "gays" hitting on them.

I'd have been tempted to ask the guy "Do you hit on girls?" And (assuming he said yes) "So what do you do if they say no?"

*That* is what most of these guys are actually afraid of. That gay men would treat them the way they treat women.

Pointing that out might just help them to treat women better.

The problem...

What exactly needs to happen in this country for the systematic targeting of minorities to stop? How far does it need to go?

These are not rhetorical questions…

We need to get rid of the idea that "different" is *wrong*. To paraphrase a certain wrinkled Jedi:

different is wrong
wrong is evil
evil must be destroyed

Another phrase I encountered somewhere bears consideration as well: "they have mistaken your fortune for your fault"

That is, they think that something that happened to you by chance (or some other mechanism you have no control over) is your "fault" (ie the result of something you deliberately did or chose).

That btw, is why bigots keep claiming homosexuality, being TG etc are *choices*.

They couldn't do that with race, which is why there were folks claiming that blacks were the "children of Cain" and other nonsense.

Oh yeah, this also fits the way bigots will point at how the people they are bigoted against are poor, sick, have bad relationships, die young, etc. Claiming that as justification. When in many cases those things are *due* to the very prejudice they are preaching!

Different is just different. Any wrongness depends on how the difference affects others.