For those who need it..

This is a link posted on a TG mailing list I'm on when the subject of bullying in school came up.

Please read it, and pass it on to anyone who is suffering any sort of harassment for being "different". And think about it.

Please.

Old pictures

Some pictures of me cross-dressing *before* I got rid of the beard...

( Proceed at your own risk )

And now for something completely different..

A picture from a couple of years back. Me as a Buddhist monk at an event.

I got in trouble for shaving my head for this...

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Thoughts on bisexuality

Someone in the venusenvy group over at Yahoogroups posted this the other day. I'm reposting it here with their permission.

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Oh well, interesting topic. I've got an opinion on why there's biphobia in the community and I'm going to link it with a discussion that happened here (and happens in the trans*-community all the time), namely the one between "true" transpeople (i.e. TS) and the rest of us (most particularly the people who self-identify as bi-gendered, since that's the closest analog).

Monosexuality centers on the idea, that sexual attraction has to be classified by the target sex or gender (there's shaky ground, if the two don't match). Any sexuality that's non-mono (be it called bi, omni, poly or whathaveyou) challenges the idea, that sex is the first characteristic of a partner that matters. The monosexual view is heterocentric of course, because a society where this was not the case wouldn't have a way of privileging straight relationships.

So every bi person is basically subverting one of the basic discourses of our culture, namely the idea (taken from Foucault) that you can ask the question "Who am I?" to your sexuality. Everybody knows bisexuals say stupid thing like "I guess I just like humans." (Well, I have, too). But the reason that they're stupid is, that they can't be understood by people who've bought into our culture, so it's pointless saying them - The content isn't stupid at all. So where does it leave lesbians and gays? Well, they've bought into this culture, too. Especially when it
comes to the idea of making your sexuality an identity. And even if society is somewhat challenged by them, bisexuality goes one step further, not be giving the wrong answer to a question, but by calling the question dumb. Of course people who've just given shit for giving an honest answer won't like that.

The transdiscourse takes the exact same path, trans* who were anything apart from TS get told the very same things bisexuals get told, only with sexual orientation replaced by gender Identity. If I had a penny for every time a TS has told me, I'd settle for a male or a female life some day, I'd be a rich genderqueer entity. And of course we can chicken out all the time, while TS don't have that option and... As I said, the same path. And with the same reason, too. Every TS has taken great pains coming to an answer to the question "Are you a boy or a girl?", and
being TS they're up against a world, that does not like their particular answer. And so to them this question must be important, because why take all that shit, if the question is flawed? And here come the drag people and whathaveyous and claim the question is stupid and there are no sensible answers to that. No wonder TS feel threatened.

Well, I still think both questions are stupid, but since I know answering them cost people I'm trying to explain why I think so in a way that won't make them belive I'm out to get them or deny their existence. Would be nice if they did so, too. (Some do, of course. More power to them)

susu

Major Insanity...

I'm swiping this link from ziactrice

Drink warning!