reactions to accusations
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kengrSat, 18:44: quixylvre: aphobic-soundwave: aphobic-soundwave: “if somebody becomes panicked when you accuse them of...
https://t.co/U6ETGhyIz2 (read it, it makes a lot of good points)
The reverse happens too. I shared a room with another kid in a foster home. I hadn't really paid attention to him messing with the wall with a key. I just wrote it off as being pretty much the same as kids at school idly gouging at the wood of the desks (in lower grades anyway, and he was a bit "slow").
Anyway, turns out he'd been using the key to "drill" a hole through the plasterboard to the girls room on the other side.
We both got accused of it, and I got special attention because I *didn't* get all panicky at the accusation.
Hey, I knew I didn't do it. so why would I panic?
But nooo the fact that I *didn't* panic was "evidence" of guilt.
Basically, this sort of thing is used to "confirm" what the person already believes about your guilt.
https://t.co/U6ETGhyIz2 (read it, it makes a lot of good points)
The reverse happens too. I shared a room with another kid in a foster home. I hadn't really paid attention to him messing with the wall with a key. I just wrote it off as being pretty much the same as kids at school idly gouging at the wood of the desks (in lower grades anyway, and he was a bit "slow").
Anyway, turns out he'd been using the key to "drill" a hole through the plasterboard to the girls room on the other side.
We both got accused of it, and I got special attention because I *didn't* get all panicky at the accusation.
Hey, I knew I didn't do it. so why would I panic?
But nooo the fact that I *didn't* panic was "evidence" of guilt.
Basically, this sort of thing is used to "confirm" what the person already believes about your guilt.
