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2022-06-19 09:03 am
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Pride celebration

Yesterday [personal profile] fayanora and I went to the Portland Pride festival. I hadn't been for several years even before Covid.

I think this is the last time I'm going. The long line to get in moved pretty fast. But once in, I had several problems. There was almost *no* place to sit down. And being as out of shape as I am I needed to sdtop and rest at least once per "group" of booths.

Didn't help that a lot of interesting booths had lots of people standing around them. I couldn't handling 5-10 minutes before I could get a look at stuff.

A few fun spots:

Some folks making Adirondak type furniture (one of the place I was able to sit for a bit). Their name is Adirondykes. :-)

Some interesting vibrators from Cutelittlefuckers.

I bought a dark (black & Purple) Ghost Neko at the Kumoricon booth.

Anyway, after maybe an hour and a half I texted Fay and told here I was going home.
kengr: (Default)
2022-06-10 01:49 pm
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You'd think they'd have better things to do.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10891021/Texas-State-Rep-Bryan-Slaton-says-file-legislation-BAN-drag-shows-presence-minors.html

https://twitter.com/AnthonySabatini/status/1533980818791604224

I just *love* some of the comments. And the protesters.

"Men in thongs"? That ain't a drag show, honey.

Also the comments about "grooming" and "sexualizing" children.

Ever take a look at kids beauty pageants?
kengr: (Default)
2019-09-15 06:33 pm
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Horrible story idea

I was reading something and it had a variation on one of the classic bullying memes:

During a PE class a guy who's obviously been held behind a few times (he's much bigger than the other guys) confronts the new kid (who is small for his age and a bit delicate looking)

"You're gonna meet me in the parking lot after school and get the beat down you've got coming. If you don't show up, tomorrow I'll bend you over a bench in the locker room and fuck your pansy ass."

Note, things did *not* go well for the bully. The story is one of the last ones in the Anthology "shadowed Souls" if you want to find out what happened)

Anyway, my more than a bit perverse muse piped up with a very *different* response from the bullied kid:

"Why don't we save a lot of time and you can fuck me in the locker room at the end of this class?"
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2018-06-27 11:09 pm
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Stonewall

Forty-nine years ago (June 28, 1969 at 1:20 am EDT) New York Police conducted a raid on the Stonewall Inn.
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2018-06-17 12:48 am
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Portland Pride 2018

Fay and I *intended* to get there before Pride opened at noon. Best laid plans and all that, I overslept and was awakened by Fay texting (for the third time)me sometime after noon.

Since we were running late I decided not top go with the outfit I'd picked that night before (a purple satin blouse and a satin skirt in shades of orange and brown). At least in part because there wasn't time to shave and I didn't really want to do genderfuck.

Probably just as well, I sweated buckets in the slacks and t-shirt I went with instead. I might have ruined the other outfit.

We spent something like 5 hours going thru the booths. I think this is the first time I didn't run into anybody I knew there.

We did take a couple of breaks to sit down, but all that walking got to me. We did pick up some nice swag, including some tote bags and a pouch with a net lanyard that fits my cell phone.

Also got some cards for places we couldn't afford to buy stuff from.

And I saw fay drooling over this book on smutty sign language at one booth and bought it for her as an early birthday present (her birthday is in a couple of weeks). I also got myself a dirty coloring book. :-)

Glad I went, but really sore in lots of places from all that time on my feet.
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2017-10-12 03:11 am

A day late..

I slept thru much of Coming Out day. But here's a quick sketch...

Bi (ever since I knew about sex).

Somewhat poly.

Switch (but prefer sub though I can be a "service top" for many things and a real top for a few.

Bi-gendered or genderfluid. I present male most of the time just because it's less effort (fewer spoons). Would like to present female more but after all these decades of having to present male for protective coloration, there are so many things to unlearn as well as things to learn.

But ever since I knew the anatomical differences I wanted to switch back and forth. Had some rather detailed fantasies about different sorts of "cycles". Also tried the tape bit when I was in my early teens but couldn't get it to work. :-)

Probably neurovariant, possibly Aspergers or the like.

PTSD, social phobia social anxiety disordedr, all going back to when I was a kid, but getting worse in my later teens.

Hopefully, I'm a lovable mess.
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2017-06-27 08:29 pm
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48 years ago

Police raid Stonewall Inn, 01:20 am EDT, June 28, 1969 (10:20 PM June 27 PDT)

Not the first times trans folks fought back (that was the Compton's Cafeteria Riot). But the first time it really stuck.

And yes, it was trans folks, and POC at that that did much of the fighting over then days that followed.

Here's some more info on what was going on before Stonewall:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_pre-Stonewall_LGBT_actions_in_the_United_States
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2016-07-11 06:07 am
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Dysphoria plus depression sucks

Got a bunch of stressors going on, for one, annual inspection is Friday, but I figured I should get this one out here.

I hadn't really noticed it until Pride. With the shootings in Orlando, I really felt I should go. Even if it might be somewhat risky.

But I didn't. Why? Because I wasn't going to do the jeans and t-shirt I wear every day. But I couldn't bring myself to do genderfuck. I thought really hard about it, and even dug some stuff out, but I couldn't.

What I *wanted* was to go as Brooke. But that involved a lot of effort and a moderate bit of expense. Since my electric rtazor died a few years back (they unplugged it from the wal to thest the GFI outlet in the bathroom, and I didn't notice until weeks later, the batteries wouldn't take a charge anymore. :-(

So to properly "de-hair" myself, I'd have needed a lot of Veet or Nair. Did have the spare cash,, and it just felt like way too much trouble.

There *are* spaces where I'd be ok with genderfuck, but none of them are "public" places. And Pride *is* public in that there are a lot of "allies" around, and then of course there's taking public transit to and from.

This drives home that I''m actually a lot more dysphoric than I thought.

Also reminded me that I wish I'd figured out that I was trans a year or two earlier when I still had the money for laser or electro. *sigh*.

And of course, the depression doesn't help (the whole "way too much trouble" thing)
kengr: (I'm one of them)
2016-06-17 10:05 am
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This is the problem

I came across this post today
Getting Straight To The Point

TL;DR: guy worried about gays hitting on him, instructors asks hopw many girls have hit on him

This demonstrates an all too common problem. Men are afraid of "gays" hitting on them.

I'd have been tempted to ask the guy "Do you hit on girls?" And (assuming he said yes) "So what do you do if they say no?"

*That* is what most of these guys are actually afraid of. That gay men would treat them the way they treat women.

Pointing that out might just help them to treat women better.
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2015-10-07 10:38 am
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He actually went there!

http://www.rightwingwatch.org/content/alabama-supreme-court-justice-tom-parker-state-courts-must-defy-supreme-courts-gay-marriage-
After making the case that the Obergefell decision does not even apply to Alabama, Parker absurdly asserted that the Supreme Court had no grounds upon which to issue the decision in the first place because gays are not being denied equal treatment under the law since everyone is free to marry someone of the opposite sex.

Gee, one of the big arguments made in Loving v Virginia was that blacks weren't being discriminated against because everyone had the right to marry someone of the same race.

That's what's so amazing about these people.

If you check the records, you'll see pretty much the same arguments that were used against blacks have been used against gays. And not just about marriage.

Back when they were integrating the military you got the same arguments that were used against letting gays be in the military. I mean *word for word*. Just swap a few phrase from being about race to being about homosexuality.

Ditto for more general civil rights for blacks. I don't think anybody said being black was a sin (except maybe for the Mormons before that revelation that changed their doctrine about admitting blacks) But there were a lot of people who said it was God's will to keep the races separate.

In my not-so-humble opinion, this is symptomatic of a xenophobic mindset and/or a certain sort of narrow mindedness.

It'd never fly, but just imagine the time we'd save in the courts if we listed those sort of arguments in "fill in the blank" form and passed a law (probably need to be a constitutional amendment) saying that such argument were not legally admissible.

Or at the very least, that they required *strong* proof in their favor.

Of course, these sorts of people would complain that they were being discriminated against.

To which my reply is "it is not, nor should it be, illegal to discriminate against stupidity, ignorant prejudices and the like"
kengr: (I'm one of them)
2015-06-27 08:07 am
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June History

I'm posting this early because at the "proper" time, I'll be in the middle of the WNBR.

June 28,1969 at 1:20 am EDT Police raid on the Stonewall Inn leads to the Stonewall Riots which were the start of the modern gay rights movement.

June 28, 1970 First Gay Pride marches.

June 26, 2003 Lawrence v. Texas strikes down anti-sodomy laws in all US states and territories (though a number of states still have the laws on the books and a couple have voted *down* attempts to remove them)

June 26, 2013 United States v. Windsor struck down section 3 of DOMA, making Federal recognition of same-sex marriages possible.

June 26, 2015 Obergefell v. Hodges strikes down all gay marriage bans in US & territories (also *explicitly* struck down Baker v. Nelson a 1971 decision that has been a stumbling block for marriage equality cases)

So, we have marriage equality. Which, BTW not only helps gays, but helps trans folks. No longer can the marriage license folks start arguing about what sex you "really" are. And it only took 46 years...

Now we just have to get anti-discrimination laws in place protecting GLBT folks in the places that don't have such laws. Which is *most* of the US!)
kengr: (seperation of church & hate)
2015-06-26 11:01 am
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US Supreme Court rules that same sex marriage is legal!

http://www.supremecourt.gov/opinions/14pdf/14-556_3204.pdf

Of course states like Alabama, Kansas andf others will still try to wiggle around it, but they are running out of wiggle room fast.
kengr: (antenna girl)
2015-04-15 01:55 am
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TV writers....

... really need to do their research.

Tonight's NCIS: New Orleans has a baby getting kidnapped. the parents are a married gay couple. One of whom is in the Navy (not sure about the other).

Just a *minor* little problem.

In Louisiana, gay marriage is illegal. So is adoption by gays.

So the NOPD *wouldn't* be cheerfully supporting NCIS in the search. even if the officers involved were sympathetic, *legally* there'd be all sorts of problems.

But the episode doesn't have a hint of the fact that there'd be any problems with the marriage or the adoption (and from the storyline, the adoption *was* done in the state).

So while it's nice to have a storyline involving a couple of dedicated gay dads and their daughter, it is ignoring the not *remotely* "minor" issue that they could *have* the kid legally in that state, nor would the state recognize that they were married.

NCIS: LA, it'd work. Original NCIS, maybe. But NCIS: New Orleans? Not a chance.
kengr: (I'm one of them)
2014-06-28 12:05 am
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It's been 45 years...

45 years ago (June 28, 1969 at 1:20 am EDT) A bunch of transvestite, drag guens and other "undesirables" did something unexpected.

When the New York City police raided the Stonewall Inn, they didn't go meekly and try to aavoid trouble.

Instead they fought back. And things quickly escalated to a riot.

The riot died down eventually only to revive the next night. Go google "Stoonewall Riots" for details.

Some things haven't changed. TG folks still gret tossed under the bus by the rest of the LGBT "community" when it looks like they'll be an embarsassment. Same goes for bisexuals.

But thing have improved a *lot*. Heck, at the current time marriage equality is either the law or the subject of a lawsuit to make it legal in every state of the US.

Maybe in another 5 years, things will be even better.
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2014-01-05 10:46 am
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Evil thought

I can just imagine how one of the jerks who tells lesbians "Yoiu just haven't met the right man yet" would react to being told "Oh, you just think you're straight. You just haven't met the right man yet."

Alas, while I can see the outrage. I can't see it being very likely that they'd *learn* anything from it. :-(
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2013-10-05 12:42 pm
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Westboro porn???!!!!

Yep, a punk band filmed a (very short) bit of porn on the front lawn of the "church" we love to hate.

http://gawker.com/punk-band-shoots-porn-film-on-front-lawn-of-westboro-ba-1440680143

I don't entirely approve, but then again, the odds of *that* ground actually being hallowed are slim.

Do I have to tell you this is Not Safe For Work?
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2013-08-29 11:53 am
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So true

http://sinfestfeed.livejournal.com/873482.html

That's not merely a guy vs gal thing. TG folks and even gays go thru a lot of the same protective steps.

And I'd not be surprised to find that black males (especially young ones) need to do the route choosing stuff in some places.
kengr: (idiot-free)
2013-06-29 06:30 pm
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Prop 8 again

Seems that the supporters of Prop 8 in California are petitioning the Supreme Court to stop California from resuming gay marriages.

My immediate thought is "What part of "you do not have standing to appeal" don't these folks understand?

I rather hope the SC justices are pissed off enough be this stupidity to administer a major slapdown of some sort. I don't suppose the SC can cite people for contempt of court can they?

I especially love the claim I heard one of them making on the TV that the Ninth Circuit court didn't have the jurisdiction to lift the stay on Judge Walker's order invalidating Prop 8.

Excuse me? The Ninth Circuit *issued* that stay. If they have the autority to issue it (which the Prop 8 supporters were all for) then they damn well have the jurisdiction to lift it.

The *only* remotely reasonable argument I've heard about not resuming same sex marriages in CA is that apparently California law requires an appelate court decision to quit enforcing a law. And with the Supreme Court decision, they no longer have one.

I don't really see that one going very far though.