Amen to everything you've said here. I've been encountering that bias in my own life, me putting forth all the effort I can to gain some actual control over myself* and having other people mistake it for laziness or apathy.


* Control to act. I already have control against action mastered. I am a master at stopping myself from doing or saying something I shouldn't. Too much of a master, in fact. Sometimes I have a hard time saying things I want to because the Filter won't let me.