Well, gaming doesn't come up a lot at BDSM gatherings. BDSM has come up a bit more at gaming sessions.

Though there was the "young" lady (half my age?) at a "femme-identifed slumber party a few months back who got attention from several of us because her "sleepwear was a Gen-Con T-shirt and some loose pants.

Suddenly lots of folks got treated to gamer geek conversation.